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Given a choice I suspect that all of us would like to get married and live happily ever after. Unfortunately this isn’t always possible and marriages break down and end in divorce. Unfortunately for you if you are going through a divorce it is quite likely that the woman you shared your life and dreams with is now trying to get every cent she can out of you. Here are some tips that may help you avoid a bad Divorce settlement.

1. Lawyers are in the game to make money, they’d like a divorce case to drag on to kingdom come, and if you hire such a lawyer then you’re in for a long haul. So choose your lawyer carefully ask your friends who have gone through a divorce for a recommendation. If you are unable to find a lawyer this way, then you have no other go but to interview a few lawyers and choose the one you consider the best.

2. Make sure you find a good location to store all your personal and financial records. You should be the only one with access. Get yourself a new post box where you can have private mail sent to.

3. Cancel your credit cards and close all joint accounts you have with your wife.

4. Try to keep a line of communication open with your wife. If you stop communicating a minor issue can turn into major crisis. There is always the chance that your wife may want to resolve the divorce quickly. If she can’t contact you then she can’t ask you.

5. Talk to your kids and let them know your divorce is not because of them and that you will never ever leave them alone. Don’t allow your kids to feel the pangs of separation, no matter how unavoidable it is.

6. Do not destroy any old correspondence in a fit of rage or when you become emotional. The written word counts, the spoken word doesn’t in a court of law.

7. Do not pass nasty comments about your wife either to your friends or on her face. Your friends might snitch on you, or the word will get around and then the differences will be more irreconcilable. Why create bad blood, when there isn’t need for any?

8. Stay calm, even if your wife is aggressive avoid arguments. There is no need to be aggressive once again it will look bad and you will lose out in the long term.

9. Do you have a support system in your relations and friends? If yes, lean on them for emotional support.

Finally, as you well know, a divorce can turn out to be a messy affair. So, it will do you a world of good to read up on expert advice from professionals, and there are few online products available that dole out great advice for a very small price hunt them out. Good luck on your divorce.